Let us suppose that you are in a different land where you do not speak the language. You are trying to order something you want from a catalogue. Would you point to what you do not want in order to convey your wishes? Of course not! Such an approach would only get you a lot of what you don’t want, lead to confusion and frustration, and never be able to deliver the result you desire.
The universal language of creation is focusing on what you want. ~Archangel Gabriel