Dear Ones, shame is an emotion that often results in a person getting stuck in regret and staying there. Understand that we are always supportive when human beings are able to identify and reflect upon behaviour that does not match who they really are. That is an important part of growth. When that becomes problematic is when the person then uses that experience to stall their growth and slip into a pit of self-degradation.
There is a big difference between introspection and self abuse! Any experience serves your growth if it allows you to learn, redefine, and redirect your path and your expression of self. Introspection will help you understand and choose differently moving forward. Self abuse will simply keep you stuck, which can often result in even more behaviour that is not in line with your truth.
If you have done something that you are not proud of, feel into why you behaved in such a way. What sits underneath your behaviour? Was it fear? Disconnection? Loneliness? Sadness? Anger? There is always a wounded aspect of self that drives decisions that are not in line with who you really are. Connect with this wounded part of yourself, imagine gathering it up in your arms, and love and forgive it and give it everything it could possibly need to feel whole and complete. Give yourself the love and forgiveness you would so freely offer another.
To continue to blame yourself is to perpetuate your woundedness. Understand what drove your choices. Make amends with others if necessary. Forgive yourself. Then move forward in a new, improved version of yourself that looks forward to making better, empowered choices. That is true growth, Dear Ones, and something to be celebrated. ~Archangel Gabriel