Constraining yourself creates discomfort, as your soul is always seeking to grow and expand. Attempting to constrain others, will create discomfort in your relationship with them and will ultimately cause them to have to reject you in order to honour the freedom the soul is seeking.
Dear Ones, control simply cannot get you where you want to be, not for yourself, and not with others. Do not be afraid of freedom for it is freedom that will flow you right to your deepest desires and truest connections. The days of holding yourself back, keeping yourself small, and letting fear rule your life are over, and being replaced with creation, expansion, and embracing experience. ~Archangel Gabriel