09 Nov Daily Message ~ Monday November 9, 2026

To continue our series on apologies and amends, we’d like to discuss what you can do if another won’t accept your apology. Here are some questions you may ask yourself to give yourself clarity on the situation.

Were you truly sorry or were you simply trying to diffuse a situation?

Was your apology heartfelt?

Were you willing to acknowledge how the other person felt?

Have you tried to understand – truly understand – why the person feels the way they do without rushing through it, minimizing, defending, or deflecting?

Have you made the person feel heard? Have you listened and repeated it back to them so they know they have been heard? You might say something like, “I now understand that my actions made you feel….” Many times a person just wants to be heard and understood before they can feel confident enough to move forward.

Have you tried to make amends? Has enough time gone by for the person to see you are really trying?

If you have done all of the above and the person doesn’t want to continue in relationship with you, we highly recommend you accept that choice and allow the experience to continue to shift you into a better version of yourself. That is exactly how you give even your mistakes purpose. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young

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Shelley’s Note: There are no words to describe how deeply moved I am by your response to my authentic share yesterday. You have helped more than you know. Thank you so much for all of your love and support through this very challenging time. I am so grateful.