10 Nov Daily Message ~ Tuesday November 10, 2026

We were recently asked, “What do you do if you were there for someone but they don’t see it that way and won’t forgive you for not showing up the way they wanted you to?”

This is an interesting dynamic that often occurs between people who are working from different level of consciousness. This can happen between someone who wishes to be rescued or are looking to be filled up from externals, and one who is making their decisions based on what is best and appropriate for everyone involved. You will often see this play between those who do not have a good handle on boundaries and/or self responsibility and those who do.

If you have found yourself in a position where someone has not been satisfied with you and how you have responded to them and their needs, you may find it helpful to ask yourself the following questions:

Did you show up to the best of your ability?

Did you offer what felt like the right amount of effort to provide?

Did the offended person have an attachment to things looking a certain way and a resistance to letting go of that attachment?

If the person has hard feelings toward you and don’t want to forgive you, what is the payoff for them? Does it allow them to stay in victim consciousness? Does it give them an excuse to reject you or place you in the role of villain?

Is not forgiving you a way of staying stuck or avoiding growth?

Does this person generally operate from a lack of gratitude?

Do they tend to focus more on what is not working for them vs what is?

Is judging you a true and fair reaction or is it a power play?

Is the person able to see you in your truth?

Do you operate from similar levels of consciousness?

Ultimately, choosing not to forgive for wrongs, whether actual or just perceived, is up to the individual and will usually be an indicator of where they are on their journey. If someone refuses to forgive you and you have done your best, it is safe to let go of feeling responsible for healing or resolving the situation. There are no magic words or actions that can change the mind of someone who is committed to misunderstanding you. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young

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Shelley’s Note: There are no words to describe how deeply moved I am by your response to my authentic share yesterday. You have helped more than you know. Thank you so much for all of your love and support through this very challenging time. I am so grateful.